Family Mediation is the process by which families can negotiate about future arrangements for family members with the help of a neutral third party. The mediator does not tell parties what to do, but can help the parties to reach their own agreements amicably, whilst trying to improve communication between them.
Indeed, Family mediation is where an independent, professionally trained mediator helps you and your ex to work out an agreement about issues such as:
– Arrangements for children after you break up (sometimes called custody, residence or contact)
– Child maintenance payments
– Finances (for example, what to do with your house, savings, pension, debts)
It can also be used to help with the other issues you might face, for example, your children keeping in touch with their grandparents, step families, or in-laws. Mediation can also be helpful when arrangements you’ve made before need to change, particularly as your children grow up.
There are several advantages to attending mediation, which consist of:
– Giving you more control over what decisions are made in relation to children, rather than applying to the courts
– Providing a less stressful way of dealing with sensitive matters
– Improving communication and helping you to sort out future arrangements
– Allowing arrangements to be reviewed and changed easier, so long as they are mutually agreed by both parties
– Providing a quicker and cheaper way of resolving disputes.
If you go to court to sort out your issues, the judge will make the decisions. You will need to stick to these decisions even if one or both of you feel unhappy about them. However, in resorting to Mediation, you will still stay in control. That is to say, no one will make you do anything against your wishes. The mediator will help you find a solution which works for you both and explain how you can make an agreement legally binding.
In fact, a judge will expect you to have considered mediation before you apply to a court to hear your case. They can refuse to hear your case until you have done this. Most people who start mediation will reach agreement without having to go to court. If you need to formally end a marriage or civil partnership, you will need to apply to the court to do this, but you will not usually have to attend a hearing.
A family mediator must act impartially and avoid any conflict of interest. This means that a mediator must not mediate on a dispute where they have acquired relevant information about the parties. Furthermore, a mediator must remain neutral on the outcome of the mediation. They must not seek to enforce their preferred outcome or influence on any of the parties.
You must also expect the mediator to keep all details obtained during the course of mediation confidential. The mediator cannot even disclose information to the court, without the consent of both participants. The mediators may only disclose information where there are serious allegations of harm to a child or adult.
Mediation is a voluntary process and any session for mediation can be suspended or terminated, if they feel that the parties are unwilling to fully take part in the process. Mediators must also encourage the participants to consider the wishes and feelings of the children.

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